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It's irresponsible to allow gender-blind accomidations on a college campus. Most parents would never allow premarital sex for their children before college. I don't think they would approve of encouragement from the colleges either. You can't put a young adult in such a tempting situation and believe he/she won't participate.
I trust my children, but hormones are prevalent and sometimes the will can be weak. I do not condone this is any way.
Not only the morality issue but consider the added influx of emotions. Remember, they are their to be educated. What does this teach them?
Additionally, how many security officers does GC employ? The had best train for inevitable domestic disputes that WILL incur. They will be moving residents around the campus like checker pieces to curtail "episodes" and prevent intimate arguements.
Allowing this would lead to anything EXCEPT being Gender-blind.

Someone wrote a similar letter a few weeks ago. Malcolm, you wanna shack up at college? Then rent an apartment for petes sake!!! There are more important reasons in going to college than worrying about your personal comfort at all times.

Veracity, you are right. Let's say Malcolm gets to live with his girlfriend. What happens when said girlfriend finds another guy and starts sleeping around? Then they will break up. It only promises to be a mess.

That so many people think it is their business how other people make their living arrangements and whether they engage in or refrain from having sex, particularly at a PRIVATE college, speaks volumes about why human society is so f---ed up. Too people people suppose themselves to be the dictators of others' lives.

Veracity and Dan,
What about gay students. Right now, they are permitted to live together. They must be having domestic disputes, affairs and the like. It sounds like you both advocate for all single rooms. Otherwise your statements don't make much sense.

Paul, I vehemently disagree with you. I think the demise of America is due to the dissent of moralities. If you choose to let your own children make the choice to either have or refrain from sex, thats up to you. I will encourage selflessness and morality. I will not pay for my children to attend a college that promotes the 70'ish style of free love.
Bob, I can't say for sure. You are a lucky individual if you've never had a romantic relationship with someone turn bad. Would you want to live with the girlfriend you just caught with another guy? note: This could be vice versa just as easily, I'm not picking on girls.
Would you live just as easily there? Your studies wouldn't be effected in the least? Of course they would.
Just because your kid graduated high school you don't just stop nurturing! These students have succeeded HS graduation and entitled to freedoms they never had before. However, most parents PAY for this education, which gives them every right to input. Sure, they are young adults now and if they can pay their own way, in every way, independently...fine. Give some advice if nothing else.

Dan,
Is this possibly another one of your Conservative, less government regulation, proposals?
Seems to me that it is a tempest in a teapot.

Paul,

I agree with your statement regarding some people attitudes almost as much as VCL disagrees. If people would just live their own lives as they see fit and be less inclined to tell other people how to live their lives, their would be less conflict amongst folks.

I can wholeheartedly agree, VCL, that you have a right, a duty and a responsibility to raise your kids according to your beliefs and values. However, your right to make decisions on how others raise their children does not exist.

No matter how shamefully others shirk the responsibility that has been placed on them to raise good, productive human beings, it is not ours to own.

Have a blessed day.

It is just amazing to me to see the quantity of people who believe gender-blind housing to be a detriment! Does anyone besides myself see it as a positive? Sure, there are inherent problems with it. However, I know from FIRST-HAND experience some of the same and similar problems from same-gender roommates.

I was an RA for three years in a private college. We has far too many roommate problems and my alma mater had NO co-ed dorms! So, it is not whether the roommates are same or opposite gender. It is about people and relationships. This is life in general. Life is about building relationships and working through differences. What better time than the late teens to teach someone, if they have not already learned how to deal with conflict.

Plus, since Guilford is a Society of Friends institution, what better place to learn of conflict resolution?

This decision needs to be left up to the Guilford College powers that be and the general public needs to keep their "informed" noses out of it. Unless one has a vested interest in Guilford, let it be. If one does not like what Guilford is examining, then keep one's distance from it. Remember, to choose to attend Guilford is one's choice. If one does not like what Guilford stands for, then DO NOT apply!

Shalom

Bob and everyone else. I haven't set foot in a dorm room in 21 years. We were simply assigned room mates by the school and had little choice in the matter. I think that is the way it should be. If there was a personality problem between two roomates you work it out or ask to get reassigned.

You want special arrangements so you can sleep with your girlfriend boyfriend, etc. then go rent an apartment.

Relationships in the college years tend to be short lived and transient, I had several girlfriends over my years in college and I couldn't imagine having to change roomates each time a relationship ended. That goes for gays and straights.

Here is one idea no one has mentioned. Some schools have married student housing. You wanna live with your beloved, then get married!! Yeah yeah I know this won't work for gays Bob, but the apartment is still an option.

veracity,
You aren't "listening" to me. Sure, a boy and girl can have a break up and the living arrangements could be ugly. So couldn't a relationship between two boys or two girls and there is nothing stopping these housing arrangements. If break ups are your arguement against gender neutral room assignments, it seems to me that you are forced to advocate that everyone be in single rooms, since gays could have a nasty breakup as well.

Dan,
Right now, the only folks that can live in a dorm with their girlfriend/boyfriend are gay students. So these arrangements are ok for one group but not another. This is the philisophical problem. I fail to see an argument against gender neutral room assignments.

Bob,

I'm not sure whether you were serious, but I would definitely be an advocate for ALL SINGLE ROOMS. I don't know where the whole dorm concept came from where people thought it would be a great idea to have two or more strangers thrust into almost every moment of each other's lives. If you do want a single room, at most colleges you pay out the butt for it.

I'd say let's dump this whole dorm experience and let people have some real privacy.

Also, I agree with others that college students are adults and should be allowed to screw anything and everything that moves in their private bedrooms (be they dorms or apartments). Hopefully, they'd have enough sense to not do so, but that's their business.

Bob, you missed my point, I said colleges should pick who roommates are, not students. That is what happened when I went to UNC, my roommates were chosen for me. If there is a major personality clash then reassignments should be made.

Yellowdogs idea of single rooms isn't bad, but it would increase cost significantly in new construction. When I went to school in France we all had single dorm rooms. We each had our own sink in our rooms, but shared a common toilet & shower facility.