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"There are several ways we could help males deal with emotions effectively."

Amazing how the entire male gender is lumped into the same category as a few nutcases.

Hey Suzanne, every heard of Andrea Yates? She's the one who drowned her five kids in a bathtub in Houston.

How about Susan Smith? Drowned her kids in a vehicle, let it roll right into a lake. Then she blamed it on, you guessed, a male. A black male nonetheless.

Even more local: Blanche Taylor Moore. She had a propensity to murder her lovers with arsenic.

How about Lisa Montgomery? In 2004 she murdered a pregnant woman, cut the baby from womb, and kidnapped the baby.

There are many more cases but I think you get the drift.

Your letter would have been much better addressing all people with mental problems that can lead to violence instead of some good 'ol fashioned male bashing.

While were at it triple the diversity training, outlaw guns, end all testing
at all schools, and start working on their self-esteem as soon as there born! this should solve the problem!

Considering misandry has become the social norm in this country, this letter does not surprise me. Gone, are the television commercials featuring the bubbly yet dimwitted housewife. They have been replaced with the utterly incompetent man who just can't seem to figure anything out.

While both of these portrayals are insulting, America is apparently missing the boat with regard to this issue. If we are ever to have equality between the sexes, mutual respect must be engendered in both men and women. I have known many brilliant men and women in my lifetime. None of whom were gifted because of the organs that were between their legs; but the grey-matter that resided between their ears.

As stated in the earlier letter. it is a question of mental health/mental illness; how to identify it and then how to get reasonable legislation to help people or get people needed mental services at the appropriate resource.

The young man, about whom you reference your comments, had a history of "mental illness" and efforts to get him treated were unsuccessful. Our laws today which protect the rights of individuals don't always protect the rights/safety of society. I know that juggling the rights of both are difficult but I think that the partial answer lies in addressing "the mutual/and sometimes conflicting rights"

Dan,
The fact you can name the women who have perpetrated the violent acts, makes the point of the writer. You probably haven't read enough to know, but rape is a crime of violence, with little or no connection to sexual urges. C'mon smart guy, you can do better than those comments. R-E-A-D! :)

"The fact you can name the women who have perpetrated the violent acts, makes the point of the writer."

How does that make the LTE writer's point? Frankly, the letter is chocked full of gynocentric language.

"There are several ways we could help males deal with emotions effectively."

"These men are dealing with their rage or grief through murderous outbursts."

Really? How about a solution for helping women deal with their emotions effectively? Aren't they people too?

Clearly the list Dan provided shows that women are having trouble with "murderous outbursts" like their male counterparts.

How about a solution to help troubled people deal with their emotions? Accusing one gender for all the violence that takes place in the world is quite sexist.

Bishop,
Being male, I don't have to defend this letter, but there is quite a bit of factual history on its side. Overwhelmingly, violent crime is perpetrated by men. So, Dan's little listing is irrelevant in the grand scheme of things.
Will women catch up? I hope not, as it is already bad enough. So, to get to a solution, we should not only be studying why MEN are more violent, but also why WOMEN are less violent.

When I saw the title of this thread I thought it was talking about the folks that inhabit this forum. (;-}

Demon Deacon, perhaps you should read a bit more, starting with my post:

"Your letter would have been much better addressing all people with mental problems that can lead to violence instead of some good 'ol fashioned male bashing."

Frankly I don't care what gender commits murder, someone ends up dead regardless.

Secondly, neither I nor the LTE writer mentioned rape and sexual urges, yada, yada, we both addressed murder. Read some more please and try to comprehend before posting.

LC,

"Being male, I don't have to defend this letter..."

So that's what you think it's about? Why is it whenever a man calls out a woman for being sexist, the popular attitude is to automatically question why:

A. He's threatened?

or state that:

B. Women have been persecuted for centuries.
C. Men have always been more violent.

While B, may be true, I personally don't make a habit of it. Women have come a long way in the 20th-21st centuries. Not calling them out when act in a sexist manner does just as large a disservice to what they've accomplished, as treating them like second class citizens.

I guess in your opinion, it's not possible for women to act in a sexist manner? All I'm doing is holding the LTE author to the same standards that any man would be held.

Bishop,
While you try to "homogenize" the sexes, I'll borrow a line from Porgy and Bess, "It ain't necessarily so". You obviously don't have a wife or daughters! :)

I do admire your effort to remove ALL vestiges of sexuality from your argument. It is quite a concept. The Chinese have tried that, but sexuality has a way of always bubbling up when you least expect it.

On a related topic, I support keeping all convicted serial killers alive for lifelong study. Putting Ted Bundy or Velma Barfield to death did little to advance the study of what makes these folks tick.

LC,

"While you try to "homogenize" the sexes..."

Oh, well why didn't you say just say that double standards are OK, so long as women are the only ones able to benefit from them?

That's a very poor argument, and only serves to prove you think it's OK for women to be sexist. It's not OK for either gender to engage in sexism.

Bishop,
You seem to have a real hang up with women....Don't think we can really help you with that on this blog. If you need to make everyone uniform, to be able to understand sexism, then you've missed the point entirely. :)

LC,

Which brings us back full-circle. Any time a man recognizes that a woman is being sexist, it's always countered with:
A.
B.
C.

Thanks for making my point clear.

I don't necessarily think the LTE author is sexist, I don't know her. Maybe maybe not.

What I object to is her over-generalization of the ENTIRE male gender based upon the actions of a few nutcases.

This sentence says it all:

"There are several ways we could help males deal with emotions effectively."

She makes it sound as if all males cannot handle their emotions and could resort to violence.

Imagine saying "There are several ways we could help Koreans deal with emotions effectively".

After all the VA Tech shooter was Korean. Using the LTE writers logic, all Koreans are violent and need help with their emotions.

Get used to it Bishop. If you don't agree with Demon Deacon you are automatically labelled in a pejorative manner.

I'll never forget the LTE where I posted opinions against gay marriage and was called "a homophobe of the worst kind".

It's a common tactic unfortunately.

Dan,
You are just a "victim".