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I had been with my husband for 10 years before he finally decided to marry me. We had been on and off and no one thought that we would last. We decided that April Fools day would be ideal because of the years that we had been together and what we had been through. My husband works nights, he left as usual said he would go to work and then get a little sleep before we got married. Well, on his way to work he had a wreck. He totaled our car! he called me and said he had gotten in a wreck not 5 miles from the house. I did not believe him and with this being our only means of transportation and on our wedding day. I called my dad and he went out there to check if he was ok, It was raining outside and I had my two babies, so I couldnt leave. He and my dad waited for the police to show up, and once they did almost an hour later they drove off to stop a speeding car and left my dad and husband alone waiting again. finally the report was made the car towed off and my husband sore and scratched up. He got home at 4 am, no car could not sleep and we were going to get married in 8 hours, I didnt get sleep either. I was supposed to get up at 8am to do the decorations at the club, and then get ready. I decide that I will give my decorations to my cousin who can hurry and go to the club, fix the tables and put up a few ballons. she agreed to be at the ceremony and leave a little early to help me out.

We go ahead and get our stuff together, because we are supposed to be at the reception hall at 11. This is a fairly new, beautiful place to get married, just minutes away from our house. Right next door is this brand new church that was built. My parents were supposed to come and get me but were busy cooking the food, they were behind because of the accident. We have no ride to the ceremony, no one is picking up their phones and it is now 11:30, my mother in law said she would be by to pick us up. We get there and I hurry up and get dressed, I explained what had happened to the coordinator and she made this part perfect. I was a little upset that some of my family and a lot of my friends had not made it not even my cousin who was going to take the table decorations, turns out they went to the church next door and the pastor said Yesenia and Calvin who, Ok big joke on them, they were mad for driving and dressing up with no wedding, I had forgotten my cell phone at the house so when they called they only got my answering service.

We go straight to the reception , which the DJ is scheduled to be there and entertaing the people that dont go to the ceremony and meet us there. We get to the hall at 2pm and the place is shut down, locked! I bang on the doors the owner opens the door looks surprised to see us there and I walk in no lights no DJ no table decorations at all. It seems that one of the workers who doesnt speak english kept saying no wedding, so the other 1/2 of my guests were mad at our April Fools joke. No one answered any of my calls at this time. My wedding cake had arrived, so beautiful and PINK. One of my favorite colors but the cake was supposed to be ivory. It is hot in the club we have no music, no food, no drinks, so the people that did go to the ceremony, which was only close family, help put up flowers, and ballons, Ok not a big disaster I think to myself. I am now married my husband is not hurt badly. The DJ arried at 3:45, he speaks very little Enlish and has told us he has a varity of music for all to enjoy. All he plays is Spanish music!!! Not too bad in the whole place i can count on 1 hand how many understand it. So everyone decides to start bringing in thier own favorite cd's, He only plays 2 out of the 30 he has in front of him and he plays the same song about 3 times in a row before he realizes it. We ended up dancin to a lot of Elivis and Michal Jackson. All in all, it will be a day I will never forget and we had a great time, we laughed it off after a few drinks and my husband and I are still together. We did not go on a honeymoon, that night I spent it rubbing Bengay on his back and giving him asprin. It was everything a girl dreams of.

So i have been planning this wedding for 6 months all by myself. No help from my parents, MOH, Bridesmaids , or anything.I didnt even have a wedding planner. I spent about $7000 on this wedding total thats including the rings. Well the place I wanted my wedding to be was outside and I had two dates to choose from May 10th or sometime in july well my fiance didn't want to have it in July cause the wedding would be outside and it would be hot in the tuxes. I pleaded with him that I didnt want that date cause it could rain and he assured me everything would be fine. So way before the wedding there was a mix up with the Garden pergola where I had rented for the ceremony and I had to split it with another couple. They had already choose 4pm and I had originally wanted 5pm but since that was so close I went with 6pm. So the day of my wedding everything is going good a little worried about the rain. but it hadnt rained in 2 weeks and it hadnt rained all day long. So 10 minutes before the wedding starts it pours raining and it got really cold. So I got upset and took cover and wanted to be alone to cry. Well no one would leave me alone. Then they were talking about moving my wedding to this bridge near the site. I said I wanted to go look at it. well I got in this car to go over there and to also fix my make up because my eyes were swollen and my mascara was running. Well I happen to look over and see my bridesmaids completely soaked there hair was messed up. That set me off. Then when we got to the bridge it was horrible and small. And I had seen they already moved all my chairs and some of my decor over to this bridge without my permission. I was so upset and said I didnt want to do this. Well my dad came up to my car arguing with me to go do it. then a bunch of people kept coming to the car and making me even more upset. So I ran out the car to try and get away from everyone and my dress got ruined with rain and mud. Then the groom runs over to me and we start arguing.then they get me convinced to go to the bridge. and the only reason I went was because everyone was wet and it was cold. When I get over there everyone is standing around it was too crowded and really small. my bridesmaids were wearing the groomsmen coat. It looked like a wedding from hell. Then I found out there was no music. So I felt like I was going to throw up so I ran off to the bathroom. Then got bombarded with people no one would leave me alone..everything I had worked so hard for was gone just like that. Finally when I calmed down I walked down the aisle even though I didnt want to and my bridal party was trying to hum "here comes the bride" i was so upset i didnt look at anyone not even my to be husband.we ended up just saying i do and puting on the rings. the whole ceremony was embarrassing and my worst nightmare. so afterwords i went to the car and went home. I told my husband to go to the reception because i wanted to be left alone. then my dad starts arguing with me again so I took off my dress and cried in the bathroom after an hour or so i calmed. luckly i had another wedding dress and it actually fit. good thing I lost 35 lbs for the wedding or I wouldnt have had anything. anyways when i got there kids destroyed my reception by dropping candy from the candy buffet on the ground. some kid shut off my chocolate fountain and it got messed up. They took all my camera that were on the table for memorie pictures and wasted them on stupid stuff. The 11 year old girls were asking my guest for Margaritas. The food was all cold by then. My photographer was being a b*tch to everyone bossing them around being rude to my bridal party. While I was gone she had the bridesmaids all hold my husband across there arms and told my groom to turn his face which put his face in one of my bridesmaids boobs. Then I find out she had them do another pose where he was laying on the floor and 2 girls got on the ground to kiss his cheek and the other girls did something else and she told him to turn his face and he accidently kissed the same girl that had his face in his chest. I know he didnt do it intentionally becasue my family and friends were watching but I feel like my photographer did. but it still hurts that he kissed someone else on my wedding day. Then some of the bridesmaids get out of there dresses and one put on the shortest shorts her butt cheeks were almost hanging out. I didnt even get a chance to sit at the head table with the bridal party. Then 2 of my bridesmaids purses got money stolen out of them. So my husband gave them some of out honeymoon money. My family was gone by the time I got there. My mom was completely trashed. spilling her drink all over me. doing keg stands and standing on a chair and dancing. I told her I would drive her home and she snuck off and I had to worry about her getting home safe. Then I was told we had to be out of there by 11pm which I knew but that it had to be cleaned before 12am that night and not the next day so me my husband and some of the bridal party who hadnt already left to go to the strip club and some of the guest had to clean up the reception. When we finally got home me and my new husband were trying to be intimate the tv was on and some show was talking about how great nick cannon and Mariah carreys wedding was. I lost it started crying told him to get off of me and to shut the tv off. it was so horrible. I dont have any video of my wedding or reception. no one signed my guest book because of the rain. My unity candle wasnt lit. I didnt even get to see my son in his tux.I have no picture of me and my husband in my original wedding dress and him in whole tux because it got mud on it. i didnt get to eat any food. Then one of my toasting glasses got broken during the cleaning. Then I find out that the people who own the garden pergola wont reinburse me my money even though we didnt use the Garden Pergola. My wedding was the same day as Jenna Bush's wedding and the next day I had to see and hear how fabulous her outside wedding was. I just cant get over how bad everything went. I put so much time and money in to this wedding. All I do is cry about it I cant get over how horrible everything went. I dont understand what I did wrong to have this happen to me. Everyone is like lets have another ceremony but I feel the damage is already done. I just cant figure out how to move on from this. This is worse thing that has ever happened to me..You get one day in all your life to have a perfect wedding and it was over and destroyed just like that. To top things off alot of my guest even me and my son got a cold from being wet and and cold wind. They say rain is suppose to bring good luck but I dont see how that could ever be true.

My first wedding was a catalogue of error, poor planning and bad luck which combined to make the whole thing something of a fiasco.

It was not as spectacular as having a hurricane strike, as in the featured story, but it was deeply embarrassing, and one disaster seemed to lead onto another with remorseless inevitability.

It's a long tale which involves wedding cake woes, financial losses, ineptitude, bloody ankles, plumbing mishaps, misdirected guests, unprepared venues etc.

For the full gruesome story please see the account on my blog "Warzytopia"
http://warzytopia.blogspot.com/2009/01/how-not-to-run-wedding.html.