You know a person is highly regarded if there's standing room only at his funeral -- and a congressman is one of those without a seat.
Brad Miller stood at the back of expansive Beth David Synagogue for Stanley Shavitz's funeral this afternoon.
Stanley was a people person extraordinaire. He knew everyone -- people in political office, media people, people with charitable agencies, school people, business people, people with all the organizations he belonged to or had associations with.
That's how you draw a full house to your funeral.
Stanley had one of those qualities I admire most. He was an encourager. You could count on Stanley for a good word. Of course, he would let you know if he disagreed with you about something, but that was OK because he was always more generous with praise.
Although he moved to Greensboro a few years ago, he was a High Pointer through and through. In addition to operating a successful furniture retail business there, he earned a particular distinction: He was served the first mixed drink sold legally in the city, back in the '70s. Stanley liked to be in on things.
He organized a men's book club I belonged to. He was a great reader. Once when we were in the High Point library together, he told me with regret that he'd never have time to read all the books it contained.
It was said at his funeral that he also wished he were wealthier -- so he could have given away more money. I believe he was totally sincere in that sentiment. I do know he was quietly very, very giving of what he had, in terms of time and treasure.
One of his favorite causes was the Children's Museum. As soon as I came to work in Greensboro, he began urging me to go see it. He was extremely proud of it. One day I did, only to learn that a man unaccompanied by a child would not be admitted. I could see the reason for that. Anyway, I mentioned Stanley's name and within about 30 seconds an assistant director was on the spot to give me a guided tour.
Paul Lessard, director of the High Point Community Foundation, offered some nice remarks at the funeral. He said Stanley bridged the gap between the Jewish and Gentile communities. That was true, although I doubt he thought of it that way. Where Stanley was concerned, there was no need for gaps between people. People were people, and he wanted to make friends with everyone.
Everyone who counted Stanley as a friend was blessed.
Phyllis, Steve and family, Greensboro and High Point thank you for having shared Stanley all these years.