Getting shot down is a good thing.
After the sting, the scar tissue is tougher. And it makes you battle ready for other stuff to come.
Looking for a prom date, I was shot down by three different girls. The last one I asked didn't even go to my high school. She had no real excuse.
(Full disclosure: I was a skinny, zitty teenager and more well-known than popular)
College gave me a couple hookups, but even more denials. Hey, when you're a freshman, it's hard to get some.
Well, that time out on the dating firing range teaches you somethin':
1. Know when to cut your losses.
2. It's not the end of the world. There are many fish in the pond.
3. If you don't shoot, you don't score.
After a tough couple years I became a confident, not desperate fella. If they didn't want me, chances are I don't want them either. And I became OK with simply being friends - a woman friend makes for a great wingman.
All because I was shot down a bunch.
What has being shot down taught you? How have you changed, post-dumping?
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I have rarely asked anyone out. Mostly because it's difficult for me to find someone that has the qualities that I look for before taking that first step. For example, I don't date girls that smoke. There is nothing more unattractive to me than a female smoking. It's my luck that in most places that I like to hang out, all the ladies are smoking so I would never approach any of them with a thought of "this could turn into something long-term".
Posted on July 12, 2007 2:00 PM