Practice makes ... a lot of messes.
This week is turning out to be a gruesome trip down memory lane for me. My first everything seems to be the pancake that gets thrown away. It was round about the dissolution of my first co-habiting relationship after college that I guess I must have come to the conclusion that that's an OK thing. He hurt me, I hurt him, and now maybe we won't do the same thing to the next person we love.
My first boyfriend fits the pattern: total wreck. He was in college and I was still in high school and the more time I spent with him and his friends, the less engaged I got in my life. He left me for his ex, a girl his age, and I had alienated almost all of my friends by thoroughly assimilating his life.
Only some of them took me back.
Have you ever so completely adopted a date's lifestyle or values that your friends don't recognize you any more? How do you patch things up with your friends when you come to your senses?
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I think many people do it to varying degrees (myself included).
The best way to patch things up?...be honest and forthwright- admit what you feel took place and if they are truly pals you will pick back up where you left off.
good luck
Posted on July 10, 2007 1:44 PM
Mine is a little different, I haven't had a relationship where i cling to her life or she to mine. What usually happens is that we end up knowing each others friends from somewhere so there isn't much assimilation. What does happen is that people that used to know each other may still not like each other over stuff that happened in high school or something and thus there is always tension. Drama... its better than having nothing, but sucks when its over everything.
Posted on July 10, 2007 2:56 PM