Games we play ... that drive us nuts
In an earlier post we went over the wingman.
Many commenters tended to view that as an unnecessary and useless game.
We all play games. Sometimes a date notices, others go below the radar. And it usually drives us nuts once we're keen to a game that a date is playing.
I had a girl-friend who once told me that for most first dates, she's intentionally late by about five minutes because it builds anticipation. She had a lot of first dates.
Anyone who's seen Swingers knows all about the two day rule. For those who have not, it's this: wait at least two days after getting someone's number before you call.
I've heard women say that drives them crazy. And not good-crazy, either.
What do you do when you figure out someone else's game? Play along knowingly or call them out? What games bug you? Have you had any backfire?
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Guys, toss the two-day rule.
Not only is it irritating, but if you're actually interested in a chick, waiting two or three days to call her could lose you an opportunity.
A few years ago, I met a really interesting guy at a club. We had a few drinks. Chatted for a while. Moved on to a funky late-night restaurant with some friends to grab something to eat.
He asked for my number, and I gave it to him. And he didn't call for three days.
Meanwhile, I went out two nights later (a Saturday, I think) and met another interesting guy at a cheap bar in the neighborhood. We hit it off, talked for hours ... ended things with breakfast the next morning.
By the time three-day guy called, he wasn't even on my mind anymore.
If you like a girl, call her. She'll rarely shoot you down for having too much enthusiasm.
There's no need to play those games.
Posted on August 14, 2007 11:48 AM
ya know, I agree with Ginger. HOWEVER!, after *cough cough* breakfast the next morning... I'd give it a day. not two. just so as not to seem clingy.
With chilvary being almost dead; how about calling the guy? Standard protocol is she gives you her number, you call it right there in front of her to relay your phone number back to her.
For a guy situation, I met a girl after a few drinks and got her number. The next day, I couldn't remember her name or what she looked like and there was no name on the phone number. it took me a two days to recall her name and the conversation we had. Then i called her and we're still good.
Posted on August 14, 2007 3:49 PM
WHEN I FIRST MET MY HUSBAND (AT A BAR) WE TALKED FOR SEVERAL HOURS-- I GAVE HIM MY NUMBER AND HE CALLED THE VERY NEXT MORNING. SEE-- IT CAN'T HURT TO THROW OUT THE TWO DAY RULE :)
Posted on August 27, 2007 7:37 PM