Get her number with an insult.
Negging.
It's the art of taking a hottie down a notch to get her wondering why you're not drooling all over yourself.
Then she puts a little more of herself out there, and makes it easier for you to close the deal.
Hey, I didn't write it, I'm merely a conduit for the message. Until recently, I knew nothing about negging.
Now this mystery guy has turned some of the fundamentals of dating-theory around and made men more effective at getting numbers, and notches on the bed post.
Call me old-fashioned, but being a decent human being with a slightly dry sense of humor seemed to work for me.
But I'm willing to see what is the method behind a guy like Mystery (not his real name). Shoot, now he even has a VH1 show about getting average dudes paired with hotties.
So, anyone out there familiar with this Mystery Method? Is it worth a darn? Would you consider taking one of those crazy-expensive courses?
Then again, it's cheaper than a Ferrari.
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Yeah, I really don't like this negging thing. Unless you're Ewan McGregor, I'd probably throw a few swears your way, definitely some looks that could kill, and go find myself a nice, humble guy with a good sense of humor. Men: never underestimate the power of being funny, it usually wins over looks. And definitely over negging!
Posted on August 21, 2007 5:34 PM
I'm going to take what's probably the anticipated girls' perspective on this negging thing, and say I don't like it. And I don't really get it.
If a guy thinks he needs to take a shot at my self-esteem in order to get me to take a second look, then he's probably wasting his - and my - time. And any guy who slipped an insult into our initial conversation would get the brush off - and quick.
Are there really guys out there who have made this work?
Posted on August 22, 2007 1:15 PM
Ugh. Guys, do you really want to be with a girl who has such low self-esteem that she only wants guys who don't seem to want her? Puh-leez.
Posted on August 22, 2007 5:31 PM
Now I will open my theory up to contradiction with a literary reference question for the group...
Was Mr. Darcy "negging" Elizabeth Bennett in 'Pride & Prejudice'? Or did it really work in the reverse? I think maybe the reverse -- that he didn't really see her charms until he "negged" her. Then he had to work twice as hard to overcome the effect of his "negging" to win her over.
(I just saw 'Becoming Jane' last weekend, so I guess all my girlie Austenphile tendencies are coming out now)
Posted on August 22, 2007 5:43 PM
I think it's part of the ol' reverse psychology trick.
And really, what female has ever ginned up to this pick up line:
"You're hot, I want you. Let's leave."
Because that's what men are thinking. We just have to figure out ways that are more subtle to express our undying love and affection.
Posted on August 22, 2007 6:23 PM
Dawn -
Love the P&P reference.
Come to think of it, women historically seem to go for bad boys - often the ones who are mean to them. I know a few women whose boyfriends or husbands treat them like crap. And they seem, in a really weird way, to enjoy it and thrive on it.
Then I have other friends who are dating the nicest guys I've ever met. And these women are bored and often looking around for something more "exciting."
So maybe, unfortunately, there is something to putting a woman down in order to get her interested. Though I'm not so sure that works in an initial conversation with any girl who has the slightest bit of self-esteem.
Posted on August 23, 2007 8:07 AM