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Men give to charities to show that they are financially capable of supporting a family.

Women volunteer to show that they are compassionate, with time to support a family.

It's another take on the old idea: man gets meat, woman raises family.

Or that men throw away money and women worry over others.

I always take evolutionary psychology with a large grain of salt. The fact that some scientists posit human beings evolved a sense of altruism which has no apparent benefit to themselves as a way to attract mates doesn't mean that any particular individual human being you or I meet today is consciously using volunteer work as a way to attract a mate.

Evolutionary psychology is almost always interesting in the abstract, but useless applied to real individuals in today's world.

To answer your questions, if by "someone" you mean "the admissions committee at a college", then yes. Otherwise, like you I have volunteered with the hopes that I would meet interesting people, but never thought it would make me more interesting in and of itself. If that makes sense.

No, but I do give money to charities for the homelessness and participate in food drives for these same charities because one day I might need them. But that's just me earning my karma points now and not trying to impress anyone.

As a woman, when I volunteer its out of conviction. That conviction applies to whatever passion I may be volunteering for and also a since that I�m obligated as a blessed individual to give of my time, talent, etc. to others. However, I believe that attraction does play a role in it because I am showing in action something that I strongly believe in and it advertises to the opposite sex what I am about. Not that I am just the nurturing side of my gender, but that I am not a shallow individual who expects to attract an equally shallow person. It shows my dept to the person that I may be attracted to and shows what I expect of someone who is to be my partner.

Sounds like research independently funded by a charitable organization. The problem with giving to charity is it only counts in your favor when she sees you do it... i think. I give to the United Way but that has never come up in any conversation with a former girlfriend or date. maybe thats a new pickup line. "So what do you do for charity?"

I can just picture people at a swanky Manhattan cocktail party kicking introductions off with that question, Idiot Savant. Sounds like a New Yorker cartoon or something.

I've never volunteered just to find dates, and at my pay grade, I'm not making many donations to speak of. I can't imagine that telling someone I gave my old shoes to the YMCA drive and donated a basket of gently used clothes to Goodwill would be much of a turn-on.