Who's got jungle fever?
The first girl I kissed was not of my skin tone. I was 13, it was spin the bottle, and it landed on Courtney. So we kissed.
She was cute, too.
It wasn't a big deal to me or my friends - several interracial couples lived around the neighborhood.
In this new millennium, mixed couples seem to not turn as many heads as they might have in 1991.
But this isn't a discourse on society's thoughts on race and relationships. That topic is exhausted.
Instead, I want to know - does hotness know no color? We know about jungle fever, and its permutations.
My friend went to gaming school near Seattle, where a lot of the computer geeks tend to be dudes that are all about Asians. A freckle-faced girl-friend of mine from Granite Falls is currently in love with a Mexican raised in Houston.
For me, an attractive, cool person is just that, no matter their skin shade or hairstyle. In fact, those differences can add to that person's appeal. But some folks I know tend to date similar types over and over.
And if you include nationalities -which seems to be a better way to pin down people than using the grey areas linked to race- I think most people would agree that a good accent adds points to anyone.
Do you tend to be attracted to guys or gals of another skin tone, country or ethnicity? If so, what's the attraction?
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One of the fun things is that people of all races are from different countries so its completely wide open on different attractions. I would agree that an accent is a winner but it could event be a northern U.S. (yankee) accent that attracts someone who is from the south.
Posted on August 2, 2007 1:16 PM
I.S.-
Yeah, even the domestic accents are OK. And you hit it with the yankee accent. Especially if she's fine with mine. I can get twangy sometimes.
Posted on August 2, 2007 1:21 PM
Sorry boys, but true Southern accents really turn me off. And I've never been one to hop on the Brit or Aussie bandwagons. The one accent that does make me a little tingly though might be one of the most universally reviled - New York accents. Pretty bad, huh?
Now European men, on the other hand, can be much more exciting than a lot of American ones I know. They just tend to be more sensual, more into things like good food, art and culture and more in-tune with touch because it's a more established part of their culture (whereas Americans seem really particular about their personal space bubbles).
My personal snobbery aside, though, I think people have a hard type separating their attraction to particular types or groups of people from social mores and responses when race or ethnicity is involved.
Whether you're a black woman attracted to white guys or a white chick attracted to black men, there's still a lot of baggage involved with making that public and following up on it in your relationships. And that's really a shame.
Posted on August 2, 2007 3:59 PM
Even though I've lived here my whole life, I can't take too much of a deep south been-smoking-since-age-5-accent. Nor can I take a "brooklyn brawler" accent. There is something surprisingly nice about being cussed out in spanish though. maybe its because i understand what she is saying for the most part.
yeah, i was at a bar and couple of people from my job were there, I introduced my date and everything was pleasant until one of the ladies turned to me and said "So she's with you?" I could tell by her look that it was meant in a racist way. but you can't let those people get you down. They've probably hated people their whole lives.
Posted on August 2, 2007 8:49 PM
Methinks the lady Ginger needs a reality check from The Onion:
http://www.theonion.com/content/node/34198
(Warning: Potentially uncouth content.)
Posted on August 3, 2007 10:11 AM
Ginger - I gotta go with
Lil' on that one.
Hey, I like art and movies with subtitles, too. But not when it's 1 p.m. on Sundays during football season.
Posted on August 3, 2007 10:48 AM
I never said I wasn't a snob ;).
Great link, Lil' Shakespeare.
Posted on August 3, 2007 2:51 PM
Ha! Terrific link!
An English exchange student friend of mine had that Onion-esque experience when he was here for two semesters. He was from Hull and all the American girls thought he sounded like a Beatle. Apparently the northern England accent doesn't get you very far with most actual English girls -- sort of the equivalent of a South Boston accent. But the American girls -- they couldn't get enough of it.
Posted on August 6, 2007 2:15 AM