Why have sex?
Have you ever had sex to gain something, boost your social standing or prove you could get it on with someone who is clearly out of your league? A recent study shows men are more likely than women to drop trou for these reasons.
Researchers found that surprising. But they weren't shocked that women are more likely to say they had sex because of love.
My favorite part of this study - a detailed analysis of why people have sex, based on responses from students at the University of Texas - is that men are more inclined to say they've had sex just because the opportunity presented itself, the other person demanded they have sex ... or because they were slumming.
People hop into bed together for many reasons: To get power, to relieve stress, to get off, to show love, to get exercise or simply because they're propelled by too much booze.
What motivates you toward sex? And have you done the deed for less-than-noble reasons?
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What motivates me toward sex? I enjoy it and rarely pass up the opportunity when it arises (ummm, no pun intended).
There were a couple of times when I passed on sex because the woman was clearly drunk and I suspected she wouldn't be happy in the morning when she was sober.
And there have been times when I should have passed up on sex, but didn't, because the partner in question wasn't my girlfriend.
I hope I've learned my lesson.
Posted on August 1, 2007 10:02 AM
Aside from moving mountains, love, intimacy and all that, sex can be a great workout.
Not that I'm a fitness buff or anything. I really just don't like going to the gym and that's a good way to get around it.
Posted on August 1, 2007 10:59 AM
One thing that didn't make the top 50 reasons that men and women had sex was power. That surprised me a little, because sex is a serious power trip.
I'm embarrassed to say it, but that was a major motivating factor for me in some early relationships. Guys who can be really stubborn are like putty once you've gotten them into bed.
Looking down the list, there certainly are other reasons I've headed to bed with someone that didn't have anything to do with love:
* I was "in the heat of the moment."
* It's fun.
* It just happened (that sounds like an excuse, but that's sort of how things went).
* I was drunk (shameful, but true).
That's not to say sex isn't about love or genuine appreciation for the other person a lot of the time. But I've certainly been less than noble about it in the past.
Posted on August 1, 2007 12:02 PM
#37. I wanted to become one with the other person.
You mean that actually happens? I've had great sex, but I've never seen God or become one with the other person. Guess I better go find someone who is #7 and see if #14 will get #25 to lead to #37.
Posted on August 1, 2007 2:37 PM