Do women lose on love?
Hooking up is different for women than men, according to one author.
Yesterday I heard WUNC's "The State of Things" discussion with Washington Post reporter Laura Sessions Stepp, which said that college-age women these days diss love in favor of the one-night stand, hooking up or whatever you call it.
Stepp said because of that, women are missing a shot at love, gain a warped sense of self (I'm paraphrasing here) and that running with "the boys" -in the feminist mindset- may not always be great.
So, I called my brother, who's a victory lap student in college.
He said that among his friends, some people hook up after a party, and others don't. But his closest buddies have girlfriends.
"There's always going to be someone hooking up somewhere," he said.
Well, is that so? Or are women more likely to not be concerned with the relationship, and take the "guy" line of thought - that gettin' some is gettin' some - and that's all it is?
Or, as Stepp seemed to say, is one of the reasons that people -women especially- are quick to hit the sheets is because of ill-defined thoughts on feminism and an overly sexualized culture?
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I don't know a lot of women who don't have the mindset to eventually find someone to date and have a relationship with, but there are times when single, by choice or not, when you just want the company of a warm body for one night. This usually involves a night of alcohol consumption, followed by the morning after walk of shame.
I do have friends who seem to be "hitting the sheets" a little too much (their "list" is near 50), but have trouble finding relationships, even though they state they want one. Being in my late 20's, I've also heard the "it's not like I'm a virgin- if we're gonna make out, we might as well have sex" line. Maybe for the younger ones, hooking up a lot is a way to look cool?
Posted on October 31, 2007 2:37 PM