Old-fashioned sex, with men
Sometime between when I was in college and now, almost every girl I know dated a girl.
During dry spells, my two girl roommates would turn to each other. A college friend dropped into a conversation in the most casual way that she didn't like how one of her girl friends kissed. I went to a party and there was some drinking game the only point of which evident to me was to get all the chicks making out with each other.
I hadn't thought of this lately until I was reminded of Sarah Silverman's preference for "the boring she can say it but I don't think I can"
As much as there was that whole metrosexual thing going on there for a little while, I've never been in a conversation with a dude who was like, "yeah, I made out with guys sometimes when I didn't have a girlfriend."
I got to wondering if there was something wrong with me because I just did it with boys, not boys and girls, like being exclusively heterosexual was the new prudish.
Is it?
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I wouldn't call anyone prudish for having lots of sex with boys.
There's a total shock factor to getting women to make out at bars or parties. It's lame, but the guys seem to like it. Frankly, if I were a guy, I'd rather have the woman making out with me than kissing some random chick. And if I were a guy, I'm not sure I'd want my girlfriend making out with some other girl.
I get particularly fed up with the shock factor for two reasons.
One: I've got many close friends who are bisexual or lesbian, and it's demeaning to them when straight girls try that on as an attention-grabbing tactic.
Two: I dated a woman pretty seriously for about a year when I was 17. Before that, I dated guys. After that, I've dated guys. I wouldn't put myself in a category - gay, straight, bisexual, whatever. I just pursue the relationship that appears to have the most potential at the time, and it doesn't really matter if that's with a man or a woman.
If a girl's not into women and she's just fooling around with girls for attention from guys, that's frankly stupid. But if she's potentially interested in women and is trying to figure out her sexuality, that seems like a totally different thing.
Either way, I don't think anyone's prudish just for "doing it" with the person/people of their choice.
Posted on October 2, 2007 8:34 AM
Nothing prudish, I just think it's what you're into. I had a lot of friends who experimented in college -- hell, I kissed a girl once just to see what it was like. As long as you aren't doing it to grab attention at a bar, people should go with whatever they are comfortable with. I even have two good girlfriends, both of whom I would have called straight in college (and who would have called themselves straight), who decided to give it a go, fell for each other and are now in a happy, sugar-shock sweet in love, committed relationship and are going to have kids together.
Posted on October 3, 2007 11:43 PM