Man smart, woman smarter
Unless you're watching "Beauty and the Geek."
Last night I tuned in after contemplating Ruby's last coupla posts on intelligence.
The beauties are supposed to be dumb, or act dumb, or something. Out here in the non-reality show world, that "something" can be painfully obvious.
I've seen it and experienced it: the IQ drop of women when they are attracted to a guy, a.k.a., "the dumb act."
In the arsenal of weapons women use to pick up someone, this must be the most ridiculous.
Brains are sexy, and that's not the only thing that can be sexy, as we all know. But as far as earning respect -which a lot of people seem unnaturally obsessed with anyway- acting dumb is a sure way to start from behind. The act may just be a sure sign of general stupidity overall.
The dumb act is even less respect-worthy than going home with someone on the first night (not that going back to someone's place is automatically disrespectable - something we've discussed at length before).
And fellas, we're not insulated from taking on the dumb act. It happens about every other time we see someone who's hot to trot.
A girl I knew in a few years back became the biggest moron whenever her crush came around. And then to hear her say that she planned to be a doctor made it worse. For the record, I think she is wrapping up her pre-med program, and hopefully dropped the dumb act. Another notoriously dumb-acting friend of mine just graduated UNC law school, and finally has some sense.
So, have you seen/played/witnessed/fallen victim to the dumb act? Did it work?
Comments (1)
To report abuse of the comment feature on this site, please use the feedback form at the bottom of any page.
I'm guilty of becoming dumb when I'm around guys, but here's my feminist take on it. Guys like to help girls who need help, and society has conditioned me to want to please men. So to make the guy I'm around happy, I give him lots of reason to help me.
But this all usually happens subconsciously. Whenever I notice that I've done it, I think "Why did I just act so dumb?"
The times it's not subconscious make me feel a little slimy, but I guess not slimy enough to stop.
I've acted dumb on purpose to make guys pay attention to me. It's just easier to pretend like I know absolutely nothing at the hardware store and have a male clerk do it all for me -- including carrying heavy things -- than figure things out myself. And they really do like being helpful, so why take that away from them?
Posted on November 14, 2007 2:08 PM