New kid on the blog
My name is Betty and I'm single.
The first step to recovery is admitting it, right?
In all seriousness, I enjoy being single, most of the time, even though family and some friends act like it's a problem deserving of a 12-step program. I'm open to relationships, but as an early-20s recent grad, I'm not too eager to settle down. I like men who are funny – and not with the Frat Pack sense of humor of a Vince Vaughn or Ben Stiller movie. I'm talking about being clever. Men like that don't grow on trees.
I've been single for a long time, and I like to blame the guys for being noncommittal. But with a little reflection, I know that I'm a little noncommittal too. In high-school I bailed on a Valentine's Day date because they guy gave me a very sweet, hand-illustrated card in front of my Psych class. I freaked and that was the end of that.
Supposedly once you find the one, you just know, and all of the baggage and weirdness falls away. I doubt that, and that’s where my cynical attitude on a lot of things comes into play. I'm smart enough to know that a successful relationship, let alone a successful marriage, takes a LOT of work. So why should falling in love, or even going on a first date, be so easy that you just know?
What do you guys think? If you're looking for the ONE, should it be obvious that you've found him/her? Have you gotten through a period of uncertainty about an individual to discover your soulmate?
I'm looking forward to sharing my dating disasters (and hopefully a few successes) here with all of you. Feel free to send me your thoughts at Betty@news-record.com.
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"Supposedly once you find the one, you just know, and all of the baggage and weirdness falls away"
Well sometimes perhaps but too often in looking back we find we threw the best fish back into the pond for someone else to catch. Looking back I fried a lot of Crappy when I could have been dining on Lobster.
Posted on November 27, 2007 9:12 PM
Hey Betty -
I think most of the time that, if you just know and it's love at first sight, then you're probably in trouble. That's the cynic in me speaking, but I've been through enough whirlwind romances that start hot and end up lukewarm.
It's much rarer that I've had a relationship grow on me - through getting to know a guy and finding out what we have in common. But I've found that, generally, those relationships are the longer-lasting ones, even if they're pretty tepid at the beginning.
Posted on November 28, 2007 5:52 PM
Ginger,
There's a lot to be said for your thoughts. I think all to often that "feeling" is little more than lust which isn't really a bad thing but isn't the sort of thing strong relationships are built on. To suddenly find one's self lusting after someone you were already in love with... Now that would be cool.
Posted on November 29, 2007 4:23 PM