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In keeping with our brainy week, Maureen Dowd wrote this in the NYTimes. Maybe she heard about us.

Basically, she says, if you're smart and you're a woman, forget about love. Because some research says that men are into smart women, but not the ones who are smarter then they are. And they're into ambitious women, but not ones who want more success than the guys.

Yet Christine Whelan says this at huffingtonpost.com: Dowd is full of it. Whelan supports this with a survey saying that more women with college degrees will get married than those without.

Let me clear the air here.

To get entry to club Wingfella (yes, I just wrote that), you got to have some smarts, ladies. And most of my intelligent friends agree.

Most of us prefer to have a woman with ambition and brains. That only means that the relationship will be full of interesting things that she brings from following her curiosity and her goals. Also, if she's pursuing those dreams, that should be a source of contentment that will also build into the relationship. A happy, driven person in their work or individual life will naturally make for a happy relationship.

That beats the heck out of the 1950s-era image of a housewife patiently awaiting her hubby's arrival at the end of a rough work day. And it's way better for guys than trying to keep yourself and your woman entertained. We live in a world where both members in a couple bring home the bacon in most relationships, and each has to work at it.

Really. Everyone knows that money = happiness (or something like that). So to follow the ideal way, both ought to work, do well, be ambitious and live happily ever after.

I want to hear from you on this. Fellas - does a brainy chic intimidate you or does that get you going? Ladies - ever sold yourself short to get a guy? Was it worth it? Both - what do you think of the successful guy or gal that you're going after?