Courtship in the age of text messaging
More than once in the past few weeks, a guy I've met has forgone the requisite phone call to ask for a first date (or a second date) and instead has sent me a text message.
On the one hand, I welcome it. There's no awkward phone conversation or voicemail message. I can think about my response for as long as I like. On the other hand, he can also take as long as he wants crafting a response. And that's not fun.
After all, the waiting's the hardest part.
I wonder, when I'm having a conversation with the man I'm supposed to be dating via text message, where's the honesty? The voice inflection that signals to you that he's the kind of guy you should go on a date with?
I often use text messageing to avoid uncomfortable conversations. So, in that case, is text messaging just a cop out?
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Perhaps you need to consider older men as we're less likely to make a game of text? As a matter of fact I don't even use text messaging.
Posted on January 14, 2008 12:02 PM
Interesting advice Billy. I'll take it into consideration, although I do see the value in text messaging in general (perfect for discreet conversations or talking to someone while at a loud bar).
Posted on January 14, 2008 3:35 PM
I haven't really caught on to the text messaging for dating purposes mainly because i do want an instant response from her. lol. I hate the waiting game. however, i may use it to inquire about a third date or a drink after work.
Posted on January 15, 2008 8:57 AM
How about an older man with money - I mean a really older man with lots of money . . .
Posted on January 16, 2008 2:42 PM
What does, "Se u?" mean? Good bye, See you later, or I would like to see you?
This was a text I received a few days ago from a male friend and I had no idea how to reply. Guess I'm way too old for the text set...smiles
Posted on January 17, 2008 8:06 AM
Too old. Pshaw! If you are older than 100, you can just pretend it's a telegraph.
That sounds like a message where you have to rely on the context of the conversation. If that doesn't give you any useful guidance, you should reply "l8r." Which means "I'll see you later" and see if he corrects you.
And Holden, I have a friend who is much older than I am (not that difficult to achieve) and has much more money than I do (even easier to achieve) and he sends me texts all the time. He's the one who encouraged me to get a smartphone with a full keyboard.
Posted on January 17, 2008 11:00 AM
New text from him, what does ".)u" mean, maybe smiles for u???
Man, this is way too much work reading between the lines...What happened to old fashioned writing...
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Posted on June 29, 2008 4:22 PM