Suicide watch
This was several years ago.
The relationship was odd and filled with numerous instances of untruth, lying and hiding things. She was someone who would get depressed and go weeks in that state, followed by good times. It was like she'd get some black thought and couldn't shake it.
I'm a supportive guy. And I can handle others' burdens well. We all have our mountain to climb, too. Problems of any stripe, whenever they occur, are the problems that are most important at that time.
This gal, as far as I know, was chemically imbalanced and on-and-off took prescription medicine for it. And I wanted out. Think of me what you will, but I couldn't handle the high highs and low lows. And there were other factors there, like her tendency to blow small things out of proportion and be unapologetically evil.
But knowing that she was depressive (which is different than suicidal, I know), I had to time the breakup. When people break up, they often can say that they had a feeling that it was coming for a long while. This was one of those situations. My only one, really, because I wanted to make sure I didn't drop it on her when she was in the middle of one of her dark phases.
Any of you had to tiptoe around something like that?
FYI: These days I hear that she's OK, and in another relationship with a good guy.
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I had a girlfriend that cut herself. I stayed with her and she got help here until she moved away. she's doing fine.
I had another one who needed to get high to do anything or go anywhere. maybe I'm a bad person for this, but i didn't have enough feelings for her to stay. when every conversation includes "Do you have any weed?" or "I need to call so and so, he might have some mushrooms.", its a little hard to respect her. Maybe her family will have one of those interventions on A&E but whatever happens, I'm not interested in helping.
Posted on January 22, 2008 11:12 AM
Maybe we should have written about this yesterday, supposedly the most depressing day of the year.
Much more British reporting
on it than American. Maybe because they have to work and we don't?
I heard about this for the first time last night on the NBC 11 o'clock news (can't find anything to link to). Did anybody else think Brian Williams had a hard time keeping a straight face while he was talking about it? Not that it's a comical topic, but his expression seemed to be doing something super weird.
On the other hand, at least some researchers are saying that breaking up isn't as devastating as we think: From The Atlantic:
Posted on January 22, 2008 2:33 PM