Love the one you're with
As we are in the final stretch to the ultimate, chocolate-covered rose petal diamond five star mink cristal and lobster holiday, I read a little different take on love and marriage. More marriage, actually, and less love.
Read this before you decline Mr. OK's marriage proposal:
The case for settling for Mr. Good Enough
Here's a sample: "Based on my observations, in fact, settling will probably make you happier in the long run, since many of those who marry with great expectations become more disillusioned with each passing year."
After reading this essay in The Atlantic, I think the writer's perspective is a little grass-is-always-greener. She sounds like a yuppy single mom who wishes she had a man and not just everything I ever wanted out of life (it's not like she's sharing her thoughts through her recipe column in the Russell County News. Although it's not like I am either).
But still, my heart doesn't overflow with sympathy. It may be the same thing that keeps me from enjoying Sex in the City -- besides Sarah Jessica Parker's sharpie-d on cheekbones. I mean, there are a heck of a lot more men out there than there are gigs at national news magazines.
All that said, I mainly agree with her. Nobody's perfect, so you're going to have to settle on some counts no matter what. Like buying a house: You find a couple of things you can't live without and just deal with the rest and be happy.
What say you?
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Methinks we confuse lust and love far too often. Love is a comfortable and fuzzy thing that grows throughout the years. Lust is that burning uneasy sensation that proves we all have at least some masochist in all of us.
If it's scary it ain't love.
That said: Everyone needs a few scares from time to time to remind us we're still human and alive.
Posted on February 10, 2008 10:08 AM
Settle, no, live those dreams, they do come true. Just be comfortable that the head, heart, and loins agree first. Nothing in the world wrong with long, long courtship either. The man I married, has been with me 20 years. IMHO, part of that is because of a long courtship of 4 years before moving in or marriage together.
Abet, I do agree with the above statement though, many do confuse love and lust.
Happy darn Valentines Day to one and all. And PS: We were married at my chuch Feb. 15th 1991.
Posted on February 10, 2008 6:26 PM
This is funny:
http://www.nytimes.com/reuters/technology/tech-britain-sex-television-1.html?em&ex=1202878800&en=f6bae8ab49349ba8&ei=5087%0A
I'd give up a lot of things for a 50-inch plasma.
Posted on February 11, 2008 12:27 PM