The other woman
This weekend I'm visiting an old guy friend -- and his fiancee.
He and I never had anything going on; we've always been good buddies. And since I've known her, we've gotten along fine. But I'm a little worried about spending a couple of days and nights at their place and the awkwardness that might occur.
Has anybody pulled off a trip like this successfully? Any tips for things I can do to keep the fun level high and the weirdness level low?
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I hope the GF of his don't feel threatened by you. I hope you don't get bored if they are paying too much attention to them selves and not much to you either.
Third wheel... I sometimes don't like being a third wheel.
Posted on February 27, 2008 2:48 PM
I've been the third wheel hanging out with a couple plenty of times. As long as I don't feel uncomfortable or awkward, then they don't either. Also, I think, as gracious hosts, they should be sure to cut back on the couple-like activity to make sure you feel comfortable. If you think they are the type of couple to be completely oblivious to you, then I just wouldn't visit without a friend. I visited my cousin and her former fiance once about two days after she discovered he had a child. It was the beginning of the end of their relationship so talk about awkward. Luckily, I had brought along a friend, so I felt much more at ease.
Posted on February 27, 2008 3:00 PM
....I think I'd bring try to bring a friend. I got in trouble for that one time. I refused to go to dinner with a band member and his gf. I told them that it was a waste of money to have dinner with people who change the conversations to low decibel inside jokes, long stares and random make-out sessions. Needless to say that friendship is over now. To avoid any confrontations of the sort now, I choose the couples I hang with wisely.
and speaking of which, I'd like to hear from people that do that...why do you make it awkward for the person you invited? I haven't gotten a straight answer yet.
Posted on February 28, 2008 9:50 AM
Sounds like a great chance for a threesome -
Posted on February 28, 2008 9:41 PM
I'd say don't do it. It could become awkward, even if you didn't have a fling with the guy. I'd go with the advice of others and invite a friend, someone you and the guy both know.
Posted on April 1, 2008 3:45 PM