Why not get married? Everybody's doin' it!
While wasting time last week, chatting with friends, looking at celebrities captured in photos showing off their baby bumps and downloading music at home, I learned via Myspace that my cousin is getting married. There she was flashing that huge rock with stars in her eyes and I was very happy for her. I knew it was coming, they've been together forever.
Her engagement news followed my receipt of a card reminding me that one of my friends from high school was getting married this spring. I emailed her thanking her for the invite and she politely let me know that it was just a Save the Date - the actual invite would come later.
I know nothing about the wedding process, and that doesn't bother me. I am just irritated that marriage seems to be the topic of all of the conversations around me lately. My best friend has been engaged for months, my sister and her significant other eloped about a week ago (and decided to tell us after) and I have a feeling that a few more friends and relatives will be walking down the isle sooner rather than later.
According to the gaze I received after I told one of my former teachers I wasn't married, engaged, and didn't have a boyfriend, I should either be hitched already or on my way to the altar.
And as my circle of single friends continues to dwindle, I'm struggling to figure out who I will begin spending all my free time with. I'm beginning to think weddings are the lates trend - I just didn't get the memo.
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I know what you mean. I know they say that women are getting married later in life now, but is it possible that the trend is swinging back the other way? Because, for that to be true, I know a few too many exceptions to the rule.
Posted on February 22, 2008 9:44 AM
I like the idea that i saw somewhere that talked about these couple just going to the justice of the peace and if they are still good after 3 or 4 years, have the big ceremony where they renew their vows and then invite everyone. I wish couples would do that. and for SOME folks whow are around 27 and working on their second marriage...I don't see a reason to go to that one at all. pardon me for thinking the first marriage should be the only marriage. I would also like to see a marriage cap at 3 barring circumstances like sudden death...I guess i should say, people should only be allowed to divorce twice.
Posted on February 22, 2008 2:51 PM
Two's kind of arbitrary, don't you think? Why not no divorces allowed at all? Or how about three divorces? Who are we to say people can't get married and divorced all they want, especially when there aren't any children? I know a woman who found her soulmate on her fourth try. Seems to me we need less regulation of who can get married rather than more.
As far as friends getting married, I'm enjoying it for now because I enjoy weddings. I'm sure I'll hate it when I end up single with a bunch of married friends.
Posted on February 22, 2008 3:41 PM
Wait until you reach your 40's, a lot less unmarried people out there...
My dad did it right for his 2nd marriage. He and his significant other of several years threw a big party that was attended by a friend who was a notary. In the middle, he pulled this friend aside and said "You know you can marry people, right?". The friend said "Yes, I know". Dad said "Great, here is what I want said and you are marrying us tonight!" That way no one was pressured into gifts, etc. Just all your friends partying and you getting married in the middle of the party. I still think that was the greatest way ever to get married. But what do I know...
Posted on February 22, 2008 8:16 PM
I had no idea a notary could marry people....that sounds like great! However, I'd have to find a wife that wasn't interested in dropping all that money for a chapel, food, gown, etc...a notary, huh....I'll be keeping that one on the coffee table.
Posted on February 23, 2008 9:44 AM