Writing from my deathbed
I've posted before about how I hated having a perpetually sick/hypochondriac boyfriend. I have no patience with sick people. But this year, I have had two of the most god-awful colds imaginable.
And as a writer, I'm here to tell you what goes unsaid: I was no fun.
If I had been dating me, I would have dropped off a couple cans of Campbell's soup, a box of zinc lozenges and some tissues and said "call me when you're fun again -- and not contagious."
When I changed my stand on that one time, it led to one of my most devastating rejections. Mr. Tattoos-and-sexiness was recovering from having his wisdom teeth out and I offered to come over with a movie and not much clothing on and he told me he'd rather I didn't. Thinking about it now, I think I held that rejection against my kinder nature more than I did against him.
How much do you have to put yourself in the line of fire for a companion. I mean, when you get married you promise all that sickness and health jazz. But until the contract is sealed, how much of your companion's biohazard are you obligated to soak up?
Has a so-so prospect ever moved up or down the charts because of how he/she treated you while you were sick?
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I think you can learn a lot about a person by the way they treat you when you're feeling ill. Even though I am the type that doesn't necessarily need a man's pampering, it can only earn my mate points if he were to come over with a bottle of Nyquil, tissues, soup and a movie. Heck, a few phone calls and an offer to do something to help me feel better would be great start!
Posted on February 7, 2008 10:41 AM
It definitely has made a difference to me. If a guy has no interest in trying to do something to make you feel better when you're sick or even if you're just having a bad day, there isn't much use in them hanging around. It's been my experience that those guys are also usually the ones that expect you to drop everything if they even get a hangnail. They just aren't worth my time & trouble. AJ
Posted on February 7, 2008 5:56 PM
I'd like to say that it is nice to help and be helped in those situations and have done both. My last girlfriend was transplanted here too and had no family and a lot of fair weather friends. Even after we broke up, she called me a few times when she was sick and I took care of her. I still would if she lived here and vice versa.
With that being said, I think men kind of like to be left alone when they are sick. I guess there are the ones like mentioned above, but I do not know too many of them. So do not take that too personal gals, it's a guy thing.
Posted on February 8, 2008 8:37 AM