Seeking friendship first
I don't like dating strangers. I've given it plenty of tries and will probably continue to, but, to be quite honest, I don't enjoy it. I've always wanted a relationship that was based in friendship and grew into something more.
Sure, there are plenty of reasons why those relationships are bad. (The friendship might get ruined; you might put mutual friends in the middle in the event of a breakup.) But I'm starting to think the benefits might outweigh those risks. No more awkward first dates being No. 1 because you'd get to know each other before romance is a factor. And the fact that he would likely know, and probably love, my friends is a major plus.
Tell me about your experiences dating friends. Good, bad, ugly?
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I've actually had it go both ways. I was friends with my fiance for a year before we started dating. We met in college when she was a freshman and I was a sophomore and kept a fairly casual relationship.
However, during that year, I began to date a friend of mine that lived in the same apartment complex at the university. Big mistake - we did okay as a couple for a little while, and ultimately agreed to remain friends under the guise that neither of us was looking for a true "relationship." Now, this sounds peachy, right?
Wrong.
Soon thereafter, I started dating my inevitable fiance... apparently it was too soon because girl in my complex found out and was not a happy camper.
So, in my experience, lost a friend, but had a friend become a fiance. I'll take it.
Posted on April 16, 2008 12:03 PM