Older doesn't necessarily mean wiser in the dating world.
Game, pick-up lines, charm. These are some of the terms that we women use to refer to a man's strategy to pick up women. As men get older, their methods of picking up women do too. Unfortunately, some men haven't figured that out yet.
While celebrating getting older recently, I met many men whose game had grown quite stale. We went out to a fun little spot on Battleground Avenue, where the people are usually 25 and up, because we were in search of some intelligent conversation. What we got was chessy one-liners and even a few, "so, come here oftens?"
I was thinking that maybe it's just the club scene that brings out the expired charm. I would even venture to say the low lighting, endless alcohol and smoky air are to blame for the lack of decent communication. Then I remembered how a friend of mine who met a guy at the same spot a few weeks before told me how he attempted to impress her by driving up to a house that looked like a Beverly Hills mansion or a feature on MTV Cribs and hinting that he was going to purchase the digs. He even hinted that he would move her in. Did I mention that the thirty-something is currently sharing a sparsely decorated house with a relative?
Is it possible that bad game has taken over the Gate City? And, if men are continuing to approach women with pathetic come-ons, does this mean that women are still falling for it? I'd love to hear your thoughts.
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I've had good luck impressing older women with my seven piece bedroom suite - a six pack of Budweiser and an army blanket.
Posted on April 1, 2008 4:10 PM
Full disclosure: my boyfriend is more than 10 years older than I am. So I recognize that my opinion makes me a little hypocritical. I can live with that.
I think if a guy is single on into his later 30s, there is probably a good reason for it. Either he really does prefer it (even if he's not willing to admit that's the case). If that is the case, plenty of girls before you have failed to change his mind.
Or he's pathetic and can't be taught.
That second case has been my experience of all but one of the older -- single -- guys I've met. Somehow they missed the crucial window during which it is possible for men to learn social skills and they end up grown up wolf-boys who can't have a conversation or comb their hair. Then they band together in tribes and before you know it you have Rum Runners.
I have a friend who has solved the problem by dating 18-year-olds. If I'm ever single again, I'd consider following her lead.
Posted on April 2, 2008 2:35 PM
Wow, I must be pathetic. I'm going now to see what household cleaners I can drink...
Posted on April 4, 2008 9:01 PM
Hey Permanent New Guy, hold up on the household cleaners. I am 52 and have ALWAYs dated and/or married older guys. I just prefer them. They seem to me to be more well rounded and grounded and just all in all have more total common since...just my humble opine...smiles.
The man I am currently married to was 40 when we married...he is 58 now...and he had NEVER been married an only in one long relationship before me that I can remember. Sad part is her name was the same as mine, so if he called her name out by mistake, he was still right, ha-ha...No kidding, he dated her for 7 years and we have been together over 20...and if I ever date again...it would always be with an older man...just feels more right to me...
Posted on April 5, 2008 1:44 PM